What prevents me from being loving?

We all possess the ability to love. However, most of us don't know what love is, or are woefully unaware that we have an infinite capacity to love. One of the most effective ways to express our love is through kindness. Unfortunately, more often than not, kindness is mistaken for a weakness. We tend to feel that expressing kindness makes us vulnerable. Hence, we have instituted 'safeguards' to protect ourselves. We attempt to ascertain whether the recipient is 'worthy' of receiving our love and if so, we would need it to be reciprocated. 

Another such obstacle is the fear of being taken for granted, our fragile ego is a strident advocate of this insecurity. If viewed objectively, it is not so much our apprehension of appearing to be weak but rather, our failure to recognize the fact that we ARE weak. 

Our exercise in self-deception goes even further to hide behind the cloak of self-righteousness that subscribes to the notion that too much kindness may 'spoil' the recipient by creating a dependency or expectation. This elevated sense of morality is dangerous, as in, it makes us judgmental of others and lends to the development of a virtuosity that results in a feeling of superiority. The excuses that we make for ourselves are pathetic in so far as to reflect our own shortcomings. It is akin to looking in a mirror and ascribing the flaws that are visible as belonging to the image. Our capacity to love is limitless and let us always be aware that only the strong can be 'taken for granted', for only the strong can express love through kindness regardless of how it is perceived by others.

Know that your fears are the product of a skittish or insecure mind and not a reality. Know that all are deserving of your love and any attempt to judge is a reflection of your own sense of false morality. Let not the vehicle of kindness be destroyed by prejudice, self-righteousness and judgment. Let not a single person be denied your love.