Why do we rebuke?

Why do we rebuke anybody? A rebuke is normally an answer to a judgement. We judge a person to have done something wrong, and thereby decide that they need to be rebuked.

A rebuke is not a correction; rather, it is a correction with negativity. We may correct somebody, but when we correct them with anger or frustration or anxiety or insecurity, it becomes a rebuke. Where is the need to add the negativity to the correction? In doing so, we end up hurting ourselves.

We rebuke the other person, and upon sensing our anger or frustration, they reject what we are saying. And we are left wondering why our rebuke has had no effect! The most common negativity we add to a rebuke is a raised tone of voice which immediately puts the other person on a defensive. They block out what we are trying to say because they now feel justified in feeling angry at being rebuked by us. So the words of our rebuke are lost against the anger which we cloak it in.

The other person may choose to accept the rebuke or simply accept the correction; that is their free will. A correction with a rebuke is rarely accepted by the person it is given to. The best way to give a correction is not by telling the person whether they are right or wrong; rather, it is in giving an example and demonstrating to them where their action could have been different. This is the birth of what we call parables.

Parables are stories told to illustrate a particular point or an idea. In telling a parable, there is no anger or frustration that is normally attached to a rebuke. There is also no direct pointing at the other person, and that makes them more receptive to the idea of correction. At the conclusion of the parable, it is best left to the other person to realize if the parable applies to them. This way, the correction is most easily accepted.